Independence Takes New Heights: Should Women Initiate Relationships?

According to AskMen.com, women are not initiators because we were taught not to be. I figured that much, look at classic gender socializing agents like Cinderella, Snow White, and Romeo & Juliet. The men are suppose to come and swipe us off our feet, right?! However, AskMen.com also brought some interesting reasons to light. Having men ask us out gives us the upper hand because we have the power to say yes or no. Do we really want to let go of that power? Also mentioned, was how women tested men based on their approach method. By allowing men to approach us we can assess whether or not he is insecure or too cocky.

Alright this sounds true to some extent so we did our own research. We asked several people both men and women their views on the issue. Here are the results:

60% of the women interviewed think men should make the first move, while 90% of the men interviewed not only thought women can make the first move, but most of them would be more likely to pursue a women who initiated the connection.

A.Gray, male, states, "It's 2011! Women are always talking about how independent they are and how they can provide for themselves. I'm surprised more women are not making the first move. I think its kinda sexy!"

S. Brown, female, who is more a traditionalist shares the opposite view. "There are some things that shouldn't change. Just because I am more independent doesn't mean I don't want to be chased. As a man, if you don't have the courage to approach me, then you must not be that interested."

But let's face it ladies, we are wondering where are prince charming is but are we making ourselves available for him to find us? If you're hiding behind unrealistic expectations and unrealistic standards then he is going to pass us right on by (we will be coming back to this topic in a future post)!

Whatever your views, one thing is for sure times are changing and too many of us are struggling to keep up!

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